It is important to stress that it would be an excellent idea for parents to say and do the things they expect from their children/teens. Yes parents "call the shots", yet children and teens can follow your lead much easier if you actually do what you expect from your child to do, as well.
For example, if you expect your children to say "please" and "thank you", he or she will learn it (and be able to apply your expectations) much faster, if you say "please" and "thank you", whenever possible. Another example is, if you would like to control the level of loudness inside your home when your family is talking to one another, it is best to keep a consistent voice volume yourself.
One of the biggest and most common mistakes is the parent that YELLS at the child or teen for YELLING in the house; or, the parent that HITS the child or teen for HITTING his or her younger brother or sister.
It sounds really silly, and yet this is one of the most common outcomes, used today in homes by many parents. When this happens, the non-verbal message sent to children and teens is that he or she is to "do as I say" and "not as I do". If you would like your children and/or teens to act appropriately when they are frustrated, it is vital that you model that behavior, when you are frustrated. Modeling behaviors to children is essential in their learning process and become a product member in society, as he or she get older.
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Jason Johnson (MSW) has spent many years working with hundreds of challenging toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, and Bi-polar.
He has worked with children and their families in hospitals, mental health facilities, and he continues to go into client's homes until this very day. Jason works with boys and girls (ages 2-19) with SEVERE emotional/behavioral issue from various ethnic backgrounds, races, and religions.
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