ADHD in Children - How to Get Your Child to Listen to You (Part 2)

Stage 2: No Way No How

Here's what it feels like: At the moderate stage, most parents are getting discouraged. This usually happens around age 6, but it may be sooner depending on the child's hyperactivity and the parents insistence. It also depends on how oppositional the child may be. (My son was at the moderate stage when he was about 5.) 

Here's what your child does: He is in charge. You are being held hostage by his angry temper tantrums that last until you give in. He'll have a tantrum every time he doesn't get his way. And he can get quite skilled at them. If this is happening to you, you're both stuck. Your child can't stop it until you change. 

Here's what parents typically do: You may have given up on your child complying with your wishes. So you may be catering to him more and more. You may feel as if you're walking on eggshells. You probably are.

Here's what to do instead: If this is where you are now, I can't solve this in a paragraph. I can tell you what it will take. 

1. First, you will discover how to talk so that your child will listen to you. How to convince him that you mean what you say. 

2. And next, we will mend your relationship that has already been damaged by these daily struggles. If you have been catering to your child's every whim, no matter how extreme, then your child has no respect for you. (One mom was bringing her son cocoa puffs in bed so he would go to school.) 

3. You will NOT be able to correct this without structure AND a reward system. Structure is living by a set of routines. Reward is showing your child what he wins when he lives by a set of routines. The MOST IMPORTANT THING to do is get started, because this WON'T go away by watching and waiting.

You Can Improve Child Behavior

If now is a good time to get your child's attitude and behavior under control, I invite you to use these parenting tips to get started. If you want more tips, I invite you to claim your free report "Seven Simple Ways to Get Your Child to Listen to You!" You can download it when you sign up at http://www.AdhdParentingTips.com It explains the methods I used to transform my son's ADHD/ODD behavior from out-of-control to almost normal in 3 weeks. You also get 3 free videos: "How To Prevent Temper Tantrums." The sooner you start this, the easier it is to help your child. You CAN do this.

From Debra Sale Wendler - Respect Effect Mom and Respect Effect Parenting at http://www.AdhdParentingSuccess.com